Reconciliation and Breakup Again? Seven Types of Romantic Awakening Not Mentioned in "The Matchmaker in Business"

Have you ever had this experience?

☛ Upon seeing someone, you feel an intense sense of familiarity—as if they were your lover from a past life, or another version of yourself from a parallel universe.

Even though we've broken up, I found myself checking his social media for the 100th time late at night—reason tells me "I should let go," but my heart feels like it's being pulled by invisible threads.

The most contradictory thing is:
When he says, "Let's get back together," your heart still races...

The truth behind this obsession may have nothing to do with what you think of as "love".
According to the unpublished spiritual decoding of "The Matchmaker in Business"—
All relationships that cause you repeated struggles are "growth notices" sent by your soul.

This all started with the "seven types of marriage energies" mentioned in " The Matchmaker in Business "—

Getting back together and then breaking up again is a notification from your soul about an upgrade.

The first type of marriage mentioned in the novel "The Matchmaker's Business" produced by the first Ben God is called " Cause and Effect Learning Type Marriage ," which is destined to bring both love and pain. It's not about accompanying you to old age, but about helping you see your deepest inner lessons.

I later realized that my relationship, which involved getting back together and breaking up, was exactly like that.

He was a partner who deeply moved me and caused me immense pain; we broke up twice. The first time, he was away on a business trip abroad, exhausted, his pet had passed away, and I was going through an emotional storm...

I mustered up the courage to express that I felt ignored, but his response was: "I really don't have time to take care of you," and then he broke up with me.

At the time, I thought I was being too emotional and inconsiderate, so I even took the initiative to beg for reconciliation. I got back into the relationship, but found myself becoming overly cautious, unable to be myself, constantly worried about being abandoned again. The second breakup came as expected. I was devastated, feeling like I was unworthy of love after being dumped twice by the same person.

I fell into deep self-doubt and inner turmoil. Later I realized that the biggest problem in that relationship was not that the other person was too indifferent, but that I didn't love myself enough.

Through this challenge, I gradually realized that "loving yourself" is not just about eating well, drinking well, and sleeping well. 👉 So what exactly does it mean to truly love yourself?

Surface Story	Soul Lessons
Dumped twice by the same person	Build self-worth and learn to let go of the people-pleasing personality.
Want to prove that I am worthy of love	Learn to prove your self-worth without relying on connections.
I long for him to turn back	In fact, it's the inner child who longs to be accepted and recognized.

That relationship was like a lightning bolt, cleaving through the surface of my life and illuminating my soul. I began to explore spiritual growth, meditation, and energy practices, and finally learned that it wasn't that I wasn't good enough, but rather that I had already completed the lessons learned from that relationship.

Some people appear in your life,
I'm here to love you once, not to be with you forever.

I am now grateful for his departure. Without this pain, I would not have embarked on the path of spiritual awakening. To me, he may not have been a soulmate, but a spiritual mentor—someone sent by the universe to awaken me.

During that time, I frequently visited the Temple of the Old Man Under the Moon to pray. Perhaps, during those days of self-destruction, praying to the Old Man Under the Moon became my spiritual sustenance? Until one day, while talking to the Old Man Under the Moon, I suddenly realized: "Isn't praying to the Old Man Under the Moon just like what the Law of Manifestation says, 'You must first believe that you are worthy of being loved'?"

Further reading 👉 The Matchmaker at Lecheng Palace told me the secret behind the red thread !

Love may fail, but the soul will not.

Because love is merely an aid to the growth of the soul in this life, not the destination.

True success is when you transform pain into positive energy, become radiant, and learn to stop exhausting your love energy for those who don't love you.

You didn't fall in love with him, but rather with a "future version" of your soul.

Have you ever met someone like this? Even though you don't know them well, you're deeply attracted to them—their smile, their conversation, even a casual glance makes your heart race. This isn't accidental; it might be your soul's memory calling you to evolve .

In psychology, such feelings are often categorized as "love at first sight," but on a spiritual level, it is more like a soul code that makes you strongly resonate with certain qualities, thereby triggering your inner hidden desires.

Those captivating qualities—his confidence, his sense of humor, his composure—are actually potential within you that you haven't yet realized. His presence is like a mirror, allowing you to see clearly—

What your soul truly wants to become .

These potentials have been suppressed by your feeling of "I'm not good enough." His existence serves as a reminder:

"You already possess these potentials; they just haven't been activated yet."

As Zhuangzi said, "The mind of a sage is like a mirror." True awakening is understanding the message that this "mirror of the soul" wants to tell you:

You may not fall in love with him, but rather with the transformation you are about to undergo.

The mirror neuron theory states that:

The "mirror neuron" theory in psychology confirms that when we observe the behavior of others, our brains produce a response as if we were experiencing it ourselves. This explains why you might strongly resonate with certain traits—your nervous system is preparing for a shift.

A reader once shared:

She had always secretly admired a boss, finding him to be charismatic, witty, elegant, and possessing exceptional leadership qualities. However, as she embarked on a path of self-growth, started her own business, and gradually became an independent and radiant woman, she was astonished to discover that she had already become the very person she had once deeply admired.

She said, "It turns out that what I've been trying to get closer to all along is the future version of my soul."

The most amazing thing is that when her energy field began to approach her boss's level, he actually took the initiative to approach her and began to pursue her . Now, they are in a stable relationship and have become the best partners on each other's spiritual growth journey.

This is one of the deepest mysteries of the Law of Attraction: a good relationship is not about whether you like the other person enough, but whether you like "yourself" in the relationship.

Therefore, unrequited love is not a tragedy of one-sided affection, but rather an opportunity for the soul to evolve. The closer you are to your ideal self, the more likely you are to attract love that resonates with you.

▍Energy Practice: From Projection to Manifestation

1. List the three qualities you admire most in him.
2. Transform each trait into an affirmative statement of "I am..."
(Example: "His confidence" → " I am cultivating a calm confidence ")
3. Choose one activity each day and put it into practice with small actions.

When you begin to live out these qualities, amazing transformations will occur:
My obsession with him naturally diminished.
☞ New opportunities at the same frequency will automatically flood in.
☞ The awareness that "I am inherently complete" arises within me.

This is precisely the deepest essence of the Law of Attraction:
You don't need to chase after anyone, just become the version that attracts that type of person.

"Admiration is an encrypted message that the soul sends to itself. Once deciphered, you will find that the entire starry sky is within you."

The Law of Attraction doesn't "specify an object," but rather "align frequencies."

The most common misconception about the Law of Attraction is: "I want to attract someone into my life."
But in reality, from a macroscopic cosmic perspective, everyone is an energy body. The universe cannot identify any so-called "designated object"; it only responds to "energy frequencies."

in other words--
You don't attract a specific person , but rather a version of them that resonates with you on the same frequency .

If you are in an environment of scarcity, people-pleasing, and demanding energy, you will only attract people who are equally unstable and don't love you enough.
But when you turn to "How do I become that shining version of myself?"
The world is beginning to approach you in entirely new ways.

Every relationship is a level in the journey of spiritual growth.

We thought the "wrong person" was an obstacle.
But from the perspective of the soul—they are simply here to help you open the door to the right world.

Just like Evelyn (Michelle Yeoh) in "The Mafia".
Originally just a failed and ordinary middle-aged woman, she awakened multiple possibilities that she "already possessed" amidst the chaos.
Every period of chaos and setback for her is an entry point to love and strength.

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Fear and hurt in love
In fact, it is the universe's evolutionary mechanism that allows us to rearrange our beliefs about "who I am" and "what I am worth".

When you overcome heartbreak and no longer lose yourself trying to hold onto anyone—
You will find:
No one really hurt you.
It means you've finally learned how to love yourself properly.

In conclusion: Love is a pathway to spiritual awakening, not the final destination.

In the journey of the Law of Attraction and manifestation, many people mistakenly believe that "meeting true love" is the ultimate goal in life. But a spiritual perspective tells us that love is not the destination, but merely an aid to the awakening of your soul.

Earth is a school for the soul, and every relationship, whether sweet or broken, is a lesson that helps you see yourself. Everyone you think is your "soulmate" is actually there to help you remember: you deserve to be loved, and you deserve to be whole.

True success in love is never about finding "the right person," but about starting to live for yourself. When you stop craving someone else to fill your inner void, when you become your most authentic, independent, and energetic self— he will appear as the right person.

The universe won't let you miss out on the love that belongs to you, but it will wait until you learn to love yourself first. Love is a manifestation, and also a choice, stemming from your willingness to believe: "I am enough."

Remember this: You deserve the best arrangement from the universe, and you don't need anyone to define whether you are loved.

This is not just a reminder about love, but the beginning of a spiritual awakening.
Because you are love itself.